It’s true: Living with a sensitive, anxious, hyper, reactive dog is HARD.
I’m so sorry that you’re going through this with your dog. xo
Let’s unpack what’s happening so we can get you freed from this stress spiral, okay?
The truth is:
Dogs lunging and barking at triggers, or stress barking at everything, or obsessively chasing or hunting, or anxious or nervous and unable to cope … are NOT training issues.
The truth is that these are all SYMPTOMS of miscommunication, misunderstandings, unmet needs, unrealistic expectations, and amplifications of the GAPS IN OUR RELATIONSHIP with our dogs.
It’s like skipping the dating part and jumping right into married life with someone from a different culture that speaks a different language. It’s gonna be a hot mess of miscommunication and misunderstandings. (even if it was love at first sight!) 💗
After years of study and working with thousands of dogs and their families, we have cracked the code and are able to consistently and reliably break free of this overwhelming spiral.
We learn simple partnership strategies for staying grounded, clear, and kind. We use simple frameworks and implement simple daily practices that lead to better behavior, a better bond, and a brilliant life with our dogs.
This is what you’ll learn how to do in the Relationship Rehab Intensive…
… so that you and your dogs can truly enjoy your life together … and so that you can fall in love with being a dog mom again. 🐾💕
That’s what I want for you!
Let’s talk about where we’re going on our journey to partnership with our dogs
What is reactivity? Simply stated, when our brain and nervous system doesn’t detect cues of safety and connection in a given circumstance, it triggers an autonomic stress response in our body.
Social mammals like humans and dogs can quickly switch to a protection state of fight or flight, and act out in ways that might not make sense to an onlooker.
In that moment, perceptions of the situation are altered.
At this point, there is no listening, no learning, no thinking logically. Our autonomic defenses are driving our behaviors.
It’s the SAME for YOU and YOUR DOG.
When our dogs are acting out like any of this:
Leash Reactivity; Separation Anxiety; Social Anxiety; Environmental Anxiety; Obsessive Approval Seeking; Obsessive: Chasing, Hunting, Resource Guarding; Obsessive Leash Pulling; Not Coming; Stealing; Disharmony Between Family Dogs; Leaving Their Work; Refusing to Cooperate …
They are communicating in the only way they know: with their behavior.
And: The longer their communication is unheard or misunderstood, the more their behavior escalates into reactivity. (Anxiety, over-arousal, triggered or obsessive behaviors.) And the more our dog escalates, the more we do too.
🌪 THE TRUTH IS: Reactivity requires two-parties to spiral. And breaking free starts with us, not our dogs.
Let’s talk about where we’re going on our journey to partnership with our dogs…
STEP 1:
STEP 2:
STEP 3:
🛑🌪 from Reactive to Remarkable ✨💚
🛑🌪 from Struggling to Successful ✨💚
🛑🌪 from Confused to Confident ✨💚
✨💚 from Starting Partners to Brilliant Partners ✨💖✨
Become the kind, clear and calm role model and loving leader your dog needs so that you normalize a life of connection, cooperation and mutual respect with your dog.
Learn how to put shame and blame aside so you can rebuild your relationship with your dog using our ‘baby step’ process that guides you to create the kind, consensual, cooperative life with your dog that you dream of.
This RRI coaching program will be full of tactical and practical help to help you bust through some of the most common partnership-limiting behaviors.
Some of the topics include …
❤️ What are Limiting Beliefs and Why They Keep Us Stuck
Our partnership foundation basics alone won’t resolve our emotional, stress-induced behavior and choices, and they won’t change habitual patterns of behavior that we don’t even know exist for us. I’ll be teaching you why we need to face our socialized thinking and how to use our foundation basics to follow our roadmap to brilliant partnership.
We have the power to write a new story for ourselves and our dogs … instead of being stuck in a story that no longer serves us. Our path to healing and stepping into our brilliance includes releasing our old identities and old stories to make space for the new. I’ll be helping you write a new and brilliant story and get our partnership energy moving forward!
❤️ Making Peace with Mistakes
We spend way too much time looping thoughts about why we can’t do things … and not enough time understanding our learning and growing process. You’ll learn how to put shame and blame aside and build a loving relationship with ‘baby steps’ that are often neglected, misunderstood, or not tried due to the self-sabotaging thought of ‘this isn’t enough’.
❤️ Practical Partnership Skills to Level Up Your Dance Steps
Making “The Dance Steps” part of your lifestyle, and attention to communication details that matter will change everything for you, your dog and your partnership! Your Dance Invite and Your Walking Partners Dance will reach a new level. Getting SERIOUS about your “BE C.O.R.E. daily habits of a brilliant partner will mean a big leap in your partnership and trust.
We will be guiding you step-by-step on your journey to brilliant partnership — but everyone sets their own pace as we travel together toward the same destination: back home to where the heart is … enjoying the good life as a brilliant partner with our dogs!
✅ The First 8 Weeks: Recalibrating to A Partnership Life
💖 In just 8 weeks, you and your dog will have a completely different life together. 💖
How do we do that? Through the RRI 2.0 Partnership Accelerator Course that walks you through, step-by-step, the same exact process that we would take if you and I were working together one-to-one. This course follows our “Dancing Hearts Partnership Lifestyle Method™ Advanced Curriculum” framework that is PROVEN to guide dog moms consistently and steadily toward a life of connection, freedom and love.
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✅ Your Journey to Brilliant Partnership Continues with Ongoing
Implementation, Coaching, Troubleshooting, Leveling Up for a Full Year
🚀 Now, it’s time to stay on course all the way to your brilliant partnership dream life 🚀
We are committed to being your guide through the ups and downs of re-creating a life you love with your dogs.
There is no pressure to ‘keep up’ — you are fully supported whether you like to keep the fast pace of an “Explorer“, the immersive, slower pace of a “Sage“, the methodical steady pace of an “Organizer“, the take time to enjoy the journey “Nurturer” or the let’s do it all pace of the “Magician“.
You get to ‘choose your own adventure’ pace — and as long as you keep going – you WILL get there!! This is why we have made this program a full year.
PLUS: There will be plenty of time during this journey year so can pop over to BPA and take in some masterclasses of interest, join in some of our fun monthly challenges if you want … and if you need extra support to get through a tough section with your dog – there are weekly coaching calls there too.
🌟Your success is inevitable. We’ve got you. 🌟
✅ Module 1: Brilliant Partner Mindset Foundations
Lessons and Assignments: Retraining Your Brain Like a Brilliant Partner- Future Thinking to Break Free; Clear Thinking to End Self-Sabotage; Relationship Rehab Celebrating Your Dog; Life-Changing Breakthrough Discovery for Your Dream Life with Your Dog.
✅ Module 2: Breaking Free with A New Way to Be
Lessons and Assignments: Your Daily Partnership Practices; How to Normalize Normal Behavior with the Social Connection; Master Communication Skills – The Dance Steps Part1; Release Your Old Story to Make Space for Your New Life; Your New Story, New Vision, Next Chapter Plan; Your One Thing Breakthrough Discovery Deep Dive.
✅ Module 3: Thriving and Meeting Needs
Lessons and Assignments: Meeting Your Dog’s Real Social Needs to Thrive; Understanding How Regulation Works for You and Your Dog; Intentionally Creating A Balanced Life for Better Behavior; Communication Skills Mastery: The Dance Steps Part 2; How to Use Holistic Tools to Support Calm and Balance.
✅ Module 4: Walking As Partners: It’s What We Do
Lessons and Assignments: The Social Connection for Walking as Partners; Walking as Partners Foundation Skills; Successful Walks are Balanced Walks; Leash and Long Line Handling Skills; Reactive Dog Walking Case Studies Discussion and Demo.
✅ Module 5: Walking Partners Dance Development
Lessons and Assignments: Communication Skills Mastery The Dance Steps Pt 3; Learning to Walk as Partners; How to Avoid These 5 Leash Walking Mistakes with Your Dog; Implement the 12 Step Walking Partners Dance Development.
✅ Module 6: Thinking Like A Brilliant Partner Mastery
Lessons and Assignments: Better Behavior through Social Connection and Contribution; Living Like Partners; Becoming a Brilliant Partner Now; Learning Your Way to Brilliance; Developing Confidence and Competence; and Common Mistakes with Baby Steps.
✅ Module 7: Your Next Steps Plan Development
Lessons and Assignments: Craft your move forward plan with a guided walkthrough of your Next Steps Brilliant Partnership Planner.
Here’s how to make this program work for you…
Each module of the course, we’ll focus on a key relationship rehab and partnership building strategy. I’ll teach the strategy in video classes, including your process for implementing with specific assignments. Don’t delay – do the course, the assignments and start taking action.
You’ll want to go through the full course once as a first pass, and then revisit regularly during the year. As you grow as a brilliant partner, you’ll see the teachings with a fresh perspective!
IMPORTANT: Plan for and Book Time for YOU and your journey.
Schedule an appointment with yourself for every week to do the module and assignment — trust me, you are so worth it!!
Plan for and schedule time for accountability: commit to attend a POD accountability gathering at least once per month with a partnership coach that will help you with the assignments and support you in developing your implementation plan, as well as help with any struggles you may experience.
Plan for and schedule time for coaching calls: Plan to attend live twice per month (or more). You also have the option to attend the live coaching calls in BPA, so there are many choices for you to fit into your schedule. Don’t let ‘lizzie’ tell you otherwise. Make it happen.
IMPORTANT – All Year: Maintain Your Momentum and Level Up to Brilliant Partners
You MUST keep up with your coaching and partnership momentum! Plan to attend one or two coaching calls every month. Revisit the RRI course. Learn more deeply from a BPA masterclass that we’ll recommend for supporting the needs of you and your dog. As you continue to level up through the partnership stages, you’ll be ready for more insights to support you.
Plus: Make Time to Connect: All year long, you’ll be fully supported with our our private RRI Facebook group: Get daily feedback from coaches; Connect, share and engage with your RRI Sisters as much as you like.
As you already know, our community is one of the best parts of my programs. So much support, sharing, celebrating…real friends are made and genuine, heartfelt support is freely offered.
You are not alone!!
Fair Warning: This is not a ‘sit back and listen’ course. It’s a hearts-in, hands-on, collaborative process where I lead you through each lesson and provide active and engaging exercises that will support your learning, integration and implementation. And you NEED coaching and accountability!
It’s called an Intensive … because that’s just what it is!
Who won’t do well with this program? It’s not for anyone who wants to “kind of” commit. You can’t get these types of results we KNOW is possible for you without your whole-hearted commitment to learn and to be coached and to implement.
Getting these types of results takes a commitment to succeed and a dedicated persistence to doing ‘the work’…along with a hefty amount of ‘you can’t stop me’ attitude that sends ‘Ms Lizzie’ to the back seat when she gets scrappy about taking back control of the wheel.
RRI is for heart-led women who are committed to having a delightful partnership life with their dog/s and are willing to dive deeper into self awareness and personal transformation…
… and who are eager for the opportunity to work closely with me in this intensive program!! 🙂
If you are as committed as me and your team of partnership coaches are to your success … we are standing by, ready to guide you toward the life of your dreams!!!
I stand behind the Relationship Rehab Intensive with all my heart. I am confident that you will be thrilled with what you experience in the program. I know that if you do the work you WILL be on your way to becoming the partner your dog deserves and your dreams will begin to manifest. If you decide in your heart that this program is not for you after doing the work in Module 1, let me know before starting module 2 and I will refund your full tuition.
PAYMENT PLANS AVAILABLE:
3-payments of $265/ea
12 payments of $77/ea
From Coach Ulla ...
"I can't recommend RRI enough! It allowed me to work through various challenges with both of my dogs and really focus on leveling up our partnership.
The extra coaching in the weekly pod calls and the weekly coaching calls its self is worth it alone!
And then if you're lucky enough to be gifted with a one on one coaching call with Kathy - it's coaching like you have never experienced it. I made so much progress after our coaching call with an issue i had been frustrated with for 6 months.
In RRI, I've learnt so much about my self and my effect on my dogs and what changes I needed to make to transform my relationship with my dogs.
It’s also an opportunity to get to know your BeePee sisters and make some new connections, and so many big WINS!
~Marika B
“RRI is a wonderful course. I chose Myrtle as my focus dog - and I went into the course in a similar mindset about Myrtle to the one I had when I joined BPA:
I didn't really get her, I found her hard to love and bond with as a result, and, at times, I just wasn't sure if I even liked her. It's quite hard to write that now because the understanding that I have of her needs nowadays and her personality, is completely different, as is my own confidence.
I just love her to bits and totally get what she thrives on in life. RRI was what turned the tide.
I had some wonderful coaching from Kathy in one of the weekly calls about Myrtle's behaviour towards Phoebe (growling) and the work that we did on personality types - both for ourselves and our dogs - was just incredible. I will be forever grateful. "
~Ros S”
"PODS are organized to support your journey week by week; those small groups meetings are a very safe place where we all learn more about ourselves and from each other’s experiences with our dogs.
Partnership coaches are there to help you with your assignments so you can benefit fully from this intensive program.
It's so great to get to know each other, and this program meets our needs to be heard, to belong, and to contribute 😉 .
Kathy’s coaching calls are at the level of profound depth in this incredible program… and if you get the gift of a 1:1 coaching call with Kathy, that will play a huge role in your leveling up!"
Cecile R”
"My biggest insight is that I am the key to our success.
My dog is who he is and he is perfect just as he is. As such I don’t need to work on him, I need to work on me.
Since I began paying close attention to my thoughts and focusing on my process affirmation I have become a new person."
Emma B
“I feel as if I can identify problems (thoughts, situations) much earlier and think about them - why am I thinking/feeling that, how can I change this situation so my dogs will not be over-aroused, etc.
My goal going into the program was to work on my mindset part of my partnership with Cliff so I could come to believe that we can succeed, and I certainly achieved that."
Sara R”
“"I understand my dogs a lot more and I try to think about their personality before I take any action with them to help our communication! I changed my mindset from I have to...to I love to!
Our play sessions are calmer, less barking, more fun! We are more in harmony since we are careful about the energy level of our activities. Thank you!"
Marie-Michelle C”
"Like so many of us here in the BPA, doing the RRI with Dylan was a real turning point in our relationship.
Focusing so intensively on our partnership, and especially the mindset pieces, really helped me gain a lot of clarity and understanding.
Once I realised that I had been holding us in Dylan's old story of a 'special needs' pup he really started to blossom!
Tracy J
"In RRI, I set myself the goal of a few truly connected steps in the Walking Partner's Dance with my sensitive, reactive dog.
Well, what an amazing journey we had! I finally realized how I was unintentionally blocking our progress, and when I did, it led to so many beautiful, wonderful moments of connection together 💗.
We went from Pow not ever feeling comfortable at my side at all, to her consistently choosing to just naturally walk by my side without me even inviting her!"
~Steph T
“RRI was a real turning point in my relationship with Monty. I moved from resentment to building unconditional love. The ahah moment came in a coaching call when I reached out to Kathy for help. I was looking for a quick fix and ended up with a mindset shift which continues to grow.
On reflection the bit I love the most which might have been the hardest at the time was writing my old story, then visioning the new one which we are now living today. Can’t wait to work through this program again "
~Sandra C”
"It not only helped us make a deeper connection with each other, it transformed my entire mindset so that I could make a deeper connection with myself. When I was able to break free from my own reactive mindset spirals, I was then able to be better co-regulator of safe, calm, and happy for my dogs.
By practicing and living the principles of brilliant partnership, my dogs and I worked through our challenges together as a family. As I learned how to be a better loving, responsible, trustworthy leader, my dogs also learned to be responsible, and make brilliant choices.
Love this program. Best choice of my life.
~Sarah
"I definitely have much more of a connection with my dog. I feel that our relationship has grown so much in the past few months..
I no longer need to use treats to ensure that my dog connects with me. Now, I can invite my dog and she wants to connect with me. We understand each other on another level and I believe that this is so much more important to our relationship💗.
RRI is a fantastic program and the regular coaching calls are incredibly helpful. It is a very supportive and enlightening process."
~Joanna
“RRI will challenge your beliefs about your dog and yourself. It provides the tools needed for meaningful change in a very clear, step by step manner along with all the coaching and support you could wish for.
My dog's biggest struggle is her separation anxiety. She is now calm and able to relax while I am gone.
This program is worth doing and the benefits you reap will be greater than you can imagine."
~Kristin
"At home, Oakley used to go crazy barking at cars, people, and especially dogs going by. Now he is more apt to just look at me as I normalize the situation. My husband is not reacting anymore - A huge change from the barking and yelling that was the norm between them.
Before I started RRI, I took so many different classes and I kept saying that I wasn’t getting to the root of the problem, wasn’t dealing with his fear and insecurities. I felt I was contributing to his reactivity. I was in a spiral of guilt, helplessness, worry, and fear and I knew it affected him. After the old story exercise, I let go of so much anxiety.
At first, I was hesitant about the cost, but it was so worth it! I really love the program as a whole but the coaching calls were way beyond my expectation!
~Donna
"I like to feel I'm a good dog trainer and I'd been trying to help my dog's reactivity with training and counter-conditioning, and it did help but I could only get so far. I still felt she was exhausting and a lot of trouble, I had to always be ready when she saw or heard her triggers.
Now after just 12 weeks with RRI, I feel much happier and so is my dog. We're more of a team, life is much better. The coaching and support offered by Kathy and the other coaches is great, and has given me lots of insights and practical things to do which have really helped. And we're just beginning!
The approach is so different from anything I've seen. It was a real leap of faith for me, not at all my sort of thing! I liked the personality types, the Iceberg Illusion and emphasis on a balanced life. I had so many insights about how I'd held back from loving Taz properly because I found her so difficult. There is so much excellent value and support in this program!"
~Jan
“Our future is much brighter as we develop and grow in our ability to engage with one another. The program is a lifestyle not a training class. Before we began this program we were both frustrated and depleted. Now, just a couple months later, we are happy and I know we will continue moving forward.
Yes there have been behavioral benefit shifts, but those are the byproducts of what I would now call a healthier perspective that increases the balance in our hearts and minds.
The RRI program is a life changing experience for your dog yes. But also for you.
~Marcia
Stella talks about her reactive poodle...
“Bela was not enjoying her walks and neither were we…I was so frustrated and sad. This partnership lifestyle is so much easier! It is the best decision I have made in years.”
~Ulla K and Bela Lisbon, Portugal
“My rescue dog Charlie was totally overwhelmed at everything in his new environment. I was exhausted, humiliated and frustrated. After BPA, I’m so happy and amazed at how wonderful life is with my dogs!”
~Sue Mimm, with Charlie and Leila Tyrol, Austria
“There was a time when walks were difficult, unhappy and uncomfortable … but today, our walk was perfect. I am here, standing on the building blocks of the Brilliant Partners Academy … … all the insights and wisdom of classes, live coaching, sharing with and learning from fellow BeePees.”
~Marianne with Clover and Bowie Huntington, NY
“My dream dog had become a nightmare, my life was in turmoil and my family was miserable. With our partnership foundation, life is liberating, joyful and totally works! Who knew?”
~Dee and Phalen
“I thought: I’ve tried everything, training classes, behavior sessions, reactive dog classes, I have nothing to lose. 10 months later, we all enjoying our Brilliant Partners lifestyle and I’m so proud of my 3 fur kids!”
~Bettina, with Murphy, Mary and Bear
"After being kicked out of obedience class, I found Kathy Kawalec. Instead of focusing on obedience and training, we breathed a sigh of relief and began focusing on appreciating each other and observing and listening to each other. Life since is a daily delight with my girl!”
~Jane and Skye
No, you may cancel your membership subscription at any time. Simply email Kathy at least 24 hours before your renewal date ... that's it!! Easy peasy.
Absolutely! Try BPA out for up to 7 Days, and if you don't love it, just send an email to kathy@dancinghearts.org to cancel your membership for a full refund, no questions asked. After 7 days: Stay as long as you want! It's like a family, and many members never leave! Cancel Monthly membership subscription any month. Cancel Annual membership subscription before renewal date.
Absolutely not! In fact, you'll find that your level of success will dramatically increase when you add in this partnership based foundation! Remember ... our partnership lifestyle meets the core needs of our dogs ... and the training is the additional stuff.
One of my philosophies in life is to make choices on how to spend my valuable resources like time and money, and choose where my dreams can be nurtured, and I can live the life I envision. I hope you do the same.
Yes, You will need to devote time to watch the video lessons, and catch the coaching calls live or on replay...
Remember: a partnership lifestyle is just that - no need for special training sessions, setups and all that. I want to spend my precious time enjoying my life ... not struggling with unnecessary training ... and I want that for your too. And you have 24/7 access to the entire program for as long as you're a member, so you set the schedule that works for you!
Replays!! Many of our BeePees catch the replays - it's so convenient ... and you get to choose what time is best for you.
Yes. All of our courses, replays, masterclasses, workbooks etc are organized for easy access inside of our members HUB...a special website just for my members to enjoy! That said, there are easy ways for you to join our community discussions which are AWESOME without getting sucked into endless social scrolling. There are apps to help you with that, so that you only go directly into the BPA page. It's worth it, really!! But it's also ok if you don't. xo
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